I mean in person you can look for signs such as nervous gestures, blinking, rapid breathing higher pulse... but online?
Online someone can tell you anything they want no matter how bad it ends up hurting you... Some for the thrill some for desperate calls for attention. I am in a pretty good social Forum and I truly believe the people there wouldn't lie to me... Now at least. There were a few people that would lie and manipulate the other people on the forum... The fact that they felt they had to lie hurt Me more then the lies themselves.
Somethings are totally believable and believing them winds you into the deceit... When people would lie to try and hurt someone else I couldn't stand it... it hurt so deeply because well why would someone I care about deliberately lie to hurt someone else I care about? People in Real life don't need to live in a Soap Opera plot... Why do they do things that causes it?
Part of it comes down to the primal "Mine" idea... Normal* people have grown past the worst of this idea but most people haven't. The thought that something/person/area belongs to you... and like the primal animal that is in all of us** you Defend your turf... A million years ago you might have done this by throwing rocks or sticks or simply going apeshit biting and clawing. But Now... now, we have much more effective weapons.
No I am not talking about guns or martial arts or even an aluminum baseball bat. I am talking about the very weapon I am communicating to you with... Words. Starting whispering campaigns about your "perceived" enemy, rumors, even putting words in their mouth. And if you can't do that... you threaten them... tell them they are worthless or lazy or weak... Driving the weapon deeper into their hearts with every word.
Verbal abuse is rampant and not only in schools with your kids... Ya that is the most visual example of word assault*** Look at the 11 year olds that killed themselves this year... My friend ValkyriePhoenix brought to my attention of the plight of Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover and Jaheem Herrera two innocent boys that suffered from verbal word abuse so severely they killed themselves over it. It tears my heart to see the abuse those boys suffered but even more is the abuse adults subject each other to. Because then it is much more malignant... they know, they KNOW how their words can harm but they do it anyway. Why? Because they are afraid or over territorial. But you know something... that is no fucking excuse.
I have seen brother against brother sister against sister and I ask myself... Why haven't they learned? This is WRONG....
* Ummm some vague idea of a well adjusted happy adult that supposedly is alive somewhere on this mudball we call home
** It is called the Mid-brain
*** Ummm did I coin a new phrase?
As with my last post I had a Tim Minchin vid to share on the subject... this subject also has a Tim Tube to share